Therefore, in the process of choosing Husband #2, factors such as his willingness to stick to a budget, openly share his thoughts and feelings on a regular basis and a firm commitment to marital fidelity were much more important to me than the color of his skin.I was single for twelve years between my first and second marriages and in that time dated men from a wide variety of ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds, including an African-American computer programmer, a Caucasian correctional officer, a Japanese doctor, a Hispanic graduate student, and an East Indian college professor just to name a few.As an African-American woman who has been twice married, first to a fellow African-American and currently to a Caucasian man, I found the question as to whether there are pros and cons to interracial marriage an interesting one.Having experienced both a same race and an interracial marriage I would guess that my perspective may be somewhat more balanced than many.The next clip was of a black man who said he refused to date black women because they are too aggressive.Initially, his statements got laughter from the audience, but that soon turned to more severe reactions as time passed.What I ultimately found was that similarities in intelligence level, personal values, and goals and interests were far better predictors of compatibility than race could ever hope to be.However, as I examine my current relationship I believe that there may, in fact be some definite advantages and disadvantages to interracial pairing.
Being the “lone white guy” was a new experience for him when he first began attending church with me, for example."If someone drives by in a nice car, it's OK for me to say that I really like that car, or that I want that car," Ruth said."It doesn't mean I have to hate the driver for having it when I don't." Senior Jerry Steward attended the event hoping to explore new ideas.Though he now enjoys the worship services immensely, his responsiveness to situations where his African-American friends might be reluctant to accept an invitation to accompany him to a country and western bar or some other venue where the presence of other African-Americans is unlikely has been greatly increased.This awareness helps to make him much more sensitive to the need to put forth extra effort toward making newcomers to any situation feel welcomed and included no matter what their race.