If you've ever wondered why dating felt like you were driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas or you're wondering why you're not meeting great guys to spend time with, I'd like to share something with you.First, you want to put in writing both your short term and your long term dating goals.Sometimes it feels like there's no one out there to date. at school, at camp, and at after school activities.Today, not having these types of common meeting places makes it harder to find single men to date. Growing up, we weren't taught who men really are and what makes them tick.
Recently I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing is working in her dating life. You want to go into this with the mindset of having fun meeting someone new and interesting in the real world. The funny thing is, men would never even think of giving up who they are for a relationship. Every time you're with a man or he's with you, each of you is giving off signals that you might not even be aware of.That's a big difference, and perhaps indicates that people take out their dating woes on the apps they use.But regardless, there were stark differences between popular apps like Tinder, Ok Cupid, Bumble, and Hinge.Believe me, it's easy to start thinking about what you don't want versus what you do. Not only can it bruise your ego but it can also bring up all the unhealed rejection that happened earlier in life.It can feel a bit like when you were picked last for kickball or baseball in grade school.